Tulisa previously opened up about why she no longer has sexual intercourse after announcing that she feels as though she’s demisexual in last night’s (19 November) I’m A Celeb.
Fans praised the N-Dubz singer for opening up about her celibacy on I’m A Celebrity… Get Me Out of Here! as she explained why this works for her.
Being the true ‘Female Boss’, the 36-year-old had a very candid chat about sexuality and dating as she confessed she ‘hated’ using apps after trying Raya.
Tulisa went on to tell Dean McCullough: “I feel like I’m demisexual, I need to have a really close emotional bond with someone.”
The former X Factor judge described herself as a ‘slow, slow burner’, adding: “I’ve been celibate for over three years.”
Having discussed his own dating habits, McCullough asked Tulisa what it’s like to go without having sex as she explained: “I’m not an overly sexualised person.
“For me, it’s all about the connection and the emotions that I feel with someone and then wanting to express them in that way.”
The ‘Young’ singer has previously opened up about her celibacy as she explained on The Zeze Millz Show in 2023 that she doesn’t want to have sexual intercourse again until she’s solidly in a committed relationship.
Two years celibate at the time, she said: “I don’t date, I court.
“So basically you are courting because you like to build friendships before you start dating, you just don’t s**g them and you get to know them.”
Celibacy isn’t necessarily a choice made just because a person is demisexual but can be for a number of reasons including the likes of: personal values, religious, spiritual or cultural beliefs, sexual health and mental health.
Tulisa’s honest chat last night led to fans praising her for giving demisexuality ‘mainstream representation’ as many others were left scratching their heads over what it actually means.
Basically, it’s said to be a subset and add-on to a person’s identity rather than an individual sexual orientation.
Demisexuality is when someone only develops sexual feelings for another person after forming an emotional bond. Only then are they able to feel sexually attracted to someone.
Demisexuality exists all the way across the sexual spectrum; you can be straight, gay, bisexual, pansexual, or any other sexuality and be on the demisexual spectrum.
And this of course also applies to gender identities, with demisexuality existing among all genders.
